i love someone who hates me

Love never fails.”. Watch Queue Queue. . This site uses cookies to improve your user experience. or. She’s the type of person that always wears a smile, but she will cut you to shreds while she’s smiling. Dawn, would you mind expounding a bit on this sentence? // @dawnMHSH at @incourage: Dawn Camp is an Atlanta-based writer, photographer, and essential oil slinger currently juggling two life stages: mom to three teens and five adult children, mimi to five adorable grands. LOL. We were told to "love our God with all our heart, mind, soul and strength." Community See All. And because he hated Jesus first he will do what he can to destroy us. When she loved me so much she used to tell me im her life and she cannot live without me. Some of us even select a Word of the year, a theme that the Lord has laid upon our heart. In 2018, I hope to serve and love those around me. Bev, your words are wise. If a child or young adult, for instance has a sibling, parent, or other family member who seems to hate them, simply leaving is unlikely to be a viable option. I think I will do this too. I’ve had only small experiences loving so-called enemies and wow! “We were both volunteering at a haunted house and I thought he was someone I knew… hit him (lightly) on the arm from behind… he turned around and punched my arm so hard I had a massive bruise for quite a long time. Sometimes if someone hates you, there has been a misunderstanding. I just read an email from someone who “hates” me. See more of I LoVe SoMeOnE wHo hAtEs Me on Facebook. I pray you and your husband would have comfort and God’s eyes to see the situation for what it really is – a hurting woman spreading her hurt in the twisted hope of finding healing and love through pushing the hurt away and on to others. Wow. … and that’s where I am right now. My word is “Genuine”. A much needed piece every day. Anyway, I’ll have to pray for them more & ask God to work in me to be a better example of Christ’s love. The only way to truly resolve any kind of relationship issues is through love. That just goes beyond my comprehension. Community. (Completely different topics.) Who hate my guts? You have no idea how much I needed to read your post today!! Debra, Brave is a great word and I hope you find many unexpected ways to embrace it in 2018! Our son hasn’t intervened so we’ve only had casual contact with our son since then. Praying for all to work hard at loving others. Good reminder and article. 4 COMMENTS. Being in this difficult place of accusations being made against me and an incredible misunderstanding, I remind myself of what love looks like: Love is patient. Often you might think that they do so because you did something wrong, and you might try to justify their behavior, feeling that you deserve that kind of behavior. 2,506 people follow this. As I tell my kids, “You don’t have to tear one person down in order to build another up.” Thank you, friend! I pray that God will soften her heart. She has to be such an unhappy person. I must not be “snarky” but caring & loving just like Jesus. Dawn, would you mind expounding a bit on this sentence? I later learned … Of course, this is easier said than done, because in order to be able to love those who hate you, you must first cultivate love within yourself. The preacher’s words may have taken me off guard at the time, but they stuck with me and I’ve pondered them for months. See more of I LoVe SoMeOnE wHo hAtEs Me on Facebook. I love this guy but the guy I'm in love with hates me and can't stand me. Someone who believes … We spoke to our son who was gracious and kind and wants healing as well. I do self harm, but i do not suggest you do so. dragonwithpurplepants. I know it’s hard to forget that someone who’s supposed to make you feel safe is the one who hurts you the most. Thank you for the reminder to love and pray for those who hate us! i met her six months back. Love is a powerful word – it carries much weight. One final prayer and then the singing school our family attends each summer would come to an end. This is a hard one because we wrestle not against flesh and blood so we don’t always discern that sometimes the one appearing as an angel of light, and pretends to be your trustworthy friend, could possibly be a wolf in sheep’s clothing who actually hates our guts. Thus people can say: "I hate you, Then I love you . Sometimes it almost chokes in my throat, but God honors that and gives a sweet peace. Love always protects; it always trusts, it always hopes, it always perseveres. ” Even if the hatred stems from what we represent instead of who we are.” Jesus minister sinners and religious alike, and was mistreated by both, so we are in good company. 10. It takes a constant check to speak only the positive over people, whether in their presence or absence. Thank you all for sharing your thoughts about this sometimes difficult topic. I hope someone who feels moved by the Holy Spirit, will further this discussion about Love, forgiveness and healthy boundaries when necessary. She enjoys weekly movie date nights with her husband of 30-something years and a steaming cup of Earl Grey. I have tried new crushes and now I have a new boyfriend but I am still in love with someone else. A strong word, isn’t it, Dawn, and good for the transparency of that pastor. Thank you so much for your prayers, Agnes. Besides what is mentioned, I know that forgivness from the heart is SO necessary, and again and again as new hurts occur. Instead, they react to people with hatred because they think that that’s the best way to protect themselves from them, after having gone through many painful, traumatic experiences during the course of their lives, which have left them in a constant psychological state of insecurity. I get really anxious around groups of people. Without the prayer support of my husband and a few close friends, there’s no way I could’ve continued. We don't get to pick our favorite way to love our God. Thank you so very much! If they contact me, that probably means they don’t hate me.” — Sascha W. 2. Detach yourself. 4. What hurts me is the though of one of my brothers or sisters in Christ hating me. The kind of love that it takes to love those that hate us like this must indeed be sent from God for in our flesh there lives no such ability without Him who loved us and gave His life for us. This isn't to say that the two of you will become fast friends. I will be here for you if you need help. It can be difficult to talk to your crush, but even more so to a crush who hates you. You hate them because you loved them, and you lost them.” The details of what happened between us are complicated, as they usually are. I pray for this journey of healing and that God’s supernatural love would be your source!! Make the wrong comment or express the wrong opinion on Facebook if you have any doubt that “haters gonna hate.”. Blessings, Amen!! Detach yourself. . I’ve studied the concept of “One Word” for the year. I pray healing for your daughter in law’s heart, that whatever hurts she is projecting on to you would be healed within her own heart. I think this is a good word for you in this situation: let the Lord fight for you and defend you, and continue to hold your peace and act in love. I have loved this person for over 40 years & they are so consistently hurtful with their words. What should I do Nobody is perfect, and everyone deserves to live a better, more beautiful and loving life. Instead, set a goal of understanding why this person hates you and work toward being the better person. Paul writes so beautifully about love – he, too, was facing people who were against him; there were misunderstandings, they made accusations against him, and yet, he loved. What do I need to change? Dawn, all I can say is WOW! It’s so sad and I desperately want healing in our family. Ouvrez une session pour répondre aux questions Publier; Fergy. 18 réponses. Thank you Dawn for your wise wisdom. Love is kind. The truth, however, is that the hatred that is shown toward you says more about the person who is expressing it than about yourself, and the more you understand this, the more you will be able to emotionally detach yourself from any hateful attacks that you face, which will help you to better deal with the situation you are in. What a God moment this is. However, when the assault comes from someone within the body of Christ – that is crushing. Second, I am with Deeb, ” Even if the hatred stems from what we represent instead of who we are.” Ih ave an idea of what you meant, but would love to hear this from you. See actions … This is a different but connected topic to loving those who hate us or are consistently unkind, even within the body of Christ. For the first week of knowing me he thought I was a 12 year old boy…I was 16, had short hair, and was over a foot shorter than him. Yet, this is where me and my family find ourselves. Music mogul endorses Biden, launches new political party. 1 John 4:16 is a go to prayer for me…”Fill me with YOUR love, Lord, for ________, which casts out fear!” –for sometimes there is fear, too, as someone hates me. There's a girl in my school who very outwardly, blatantly dislikes me - and not in a love-hate way. Bev xx. So many of us are doing our best to use self control, a fruit of the spirit, and be angry and sin not. Pardeep Virdi. 'GMA' host uses sexy pic for climate change pitch. So thankful that “God demonstrated His own love for us in that while we were yet sinners (!!!!) Visitor Posts. Not Now. I am not talking about someone who sort of hates me. Thanks again for your wonderful prayer! To love someone who hates you is a truly divine kind of love. Page Transparency See More. After all, that’s what Jesus did. He already hates you, so giving him more of you isn't doing you any favors, right? Only a woman who is trying to love the way Jesus loved would expend energy and emotion in the direction of her enemies. The enemy hates our guts but he hated Christ first. 🙂. This has torn us up inside so my husband and I have been praying, reading and seeking God’s direction. It was traumatizing to say the least and our only daughter died that same year. … Dawn, Peal, thank you for your words this morning and your encouragement for Marie! Reshma Khan Reshma. In our community it was a lay person in the church who randomly raped children each Sunday and set such fear in their hearts so as to not disclose anything. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” A Practical Guide to Loving Those Who Hate You. It’s a terrible feeling, especially when I feel it’s been uncalled for. There is not much in a situation like this that I can do, but I can be kind. If our apology is not accepted, all we can do is move forward and continue to show kindness whenever we can. Dems hint at retaliation over Barrett nomination Even if the hatred stems from what we represent instead of who we are. In reality, you will only make things worse, not only for yourself, but for those who show hatred toward you, thus helping perpetuate a cycle of hatred, which could easily be extended to other people as well. God bless you! To love them. Then he told us we needed to speak to our daughter-in-law. Some relationships can be soul-destroying. Understanding this truth will allow you to accept them as they are and trust in their positive side. May God help you fight this fight. Réponse préférée. Do I need to ask forgiveness and make amends, and if I have experienced prejudice, it is a powerful experience that helps me to seek forgiveness for my own prejudice, to be called up short, and to know how horrible that feels. Dawn, I appreciate this sobering truth. Great post and a much needed confirmation. by Dawn Camp I’m sorry to say that even believers let hate enter the picture when it comes to differing beliefs, healing, spiritual gifts, the Rapture. or. There’s no whining or putting the blame on someone else, no “I’m a decent person so why do people hate me?” And he didn’t ask for help simply to keep himself from hating people who hate him in return, because let’s face it, that’s easy to do. He asked the Lord to help him love those who hate him. Going to embrace the truth you’ve shared here this morning. I have been reminding myself of the verses that call us to seek peace, to forgive, and to love. Nobody can truly love someone else before one first learns to love himself or herself, because in order to share love, you first need to have love — or rather, to be love. Like you, I don’t like to think that I am hated….how could that be? Hugs and Blessings. She went to prison and is no longer in the picture. But the amazing thing is that even though the other person didn’t change, the relationship became semi-functional. I would be naive to think otherwise. We were His enemies, and yet He loved us despite it and saved us, reconciling us to God. Our heads bowed, our eyes closed. How do you live with someone who hates you? Fighting never solved any problems and it never will–in fact, fighting, competition, and the war mentality that is prevalent in the modern world is what has created the majority of problems that we currently experience in the first place, both on an individual and collective level. I don’t think I understand it, but for some reason, it stuck out to me as something important. Here you will find a helpful, practical guide on how to deal with those who hate you, not by being hateful back to them, but by developing a loving attitude towards them, because, as Martin Luther King, Jr recognized: “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Not merely to tolerate them or even to be capable of ignoring them— and that would be quite a thing because it hurts when you know someone hates you. To love someone who hates you is a truly divine kind of love, the kind that allows you to push past the hurt and see people for themselves, beyond whatever misunderstandings or wrongs have piled up between you. Praying for God to strengthen you. Thank you for the podcasts and showing how to love our haters. For her sake and as believers, we need desperately to find peace. We’re believing we can all find healing! What I meant was, some people may hate us by what we represent: because we’re Christians, or because of the school choice we make for our children, or because of how we vote (or don’t vote), or because of the color of our skin (this happens no matter what the color) without actually getting to know us and who we are as individuals. July 21, 2018 at 6:49 AM. “You can not hate someone you first did not love. Not Now. Christ died for us.” When we serve, we love people even when they hate us. July 19, 2017 at 12:17 AM. Blessings, Dawn, as you live your way into the beauty of “Serve” in 2018. After all, I’d never heard the phrase “hate my guts” used in prayer, much less in one at such a large, public assembly. Fear that things will ever be right, fear that it will get worse, that I am not loved or lovable just because that indiv hates me, etc. I appreciate Pearl, you also briefly mentioning healthy boundaries for this is vitally important in certain situations as well. We are not defined by our demographics or our choices in one area. For 2018 I’m working on being more positive in my life. We felt last week that we need to reach out once more and ask our son and daughter-in-law for THEIR forgiveness for whatever we have said or done to hurt them. I know it’s hard to forgive him for breaking your heart. That conversation will happen tonight! I love, love, love that you tackled this subject! Lynn, Thank you, Lynn! My husband and I are right in the midst of trying to love our daughter-in-law who we feel “hates us”! Love See photo . Also, following the the commands in Matthew and the parallel section in Luke, plus Romans 12 help me have the Lord’s perspective and heart. I don’t think there’s a single adult person alive who has never confronted a hateful person, or who at some point in his or her life hasn’t been hateful toward others. 5. Why do I like someone who hates me (mutually)? This is my 8th year to choose a Word, and it truly influences the course of my year! I know I’m called to love this woman, but as you know, it’s very hard. I mean ACTUALLY dislikes me. I’m asking for prayer from all my incourage family. 280 Shares. Thank you for your words. And yet Jesus calls us to love our enemies: But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you . I LoVe SoMeOnE wHo HAtEs Me. Our precious little granddaughter who is now 6 is starting to wonder what’s going on. The more I know about her, the more my heart goes out to her. Anne and I were divorced after five years of marriage, when she admitted to having an affair. It’s good to be honest; then we know how to pray. I struggle with wanting to avoid the hurt and the hurtful person altogether. Il y a 1 décennie . Someone who believes she’s God. Step 1. I don’t know if I have actually been hated or not, but I have felt the sting of jealousy and dislike aimed my way. EMAIL. Pertinence. Watch Queue Queue By fighting against those who hate you, the only thing you that will manage to achieve is to add fuel to the fire, being under the false impression that by acting this way you will calm it. Deeb, I don’t think I can tag both you and Kim, who commented below, in this, so I may post this twice. Chiwendu Amadi. What these findings suggest to me is that this love/hate dynamic is a normal part of close relationships. Yes, when we think on how Christ loves us in our unlovable state, we realize we don’t get a pass to hate others. But most of us don’t know how to deal with hatred, especially when it is directed toward us. I was advised to show nothing but kindness to someone in my life who wasn’t my enemy, but was very frustrated with me. That said, being nice to someone who is making your life miserable can help break down barriers between the two of you and possibly make the situation better. Very interesting column – especially for the comments which followed. I am talking about someone who hates me to the core and wishes I was dead. When he thinks about the humiliation she brings upon him, he hates her guts. She hates me so much like i killed her mother. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”. Perhaps I need to use the word “love”! 0 0 0. I do have someone who takes their frustrations out on me. My prayer is that what comes out of my mouth whether in someone’s presence or not will be uplifting and not negative. By understanding where they are coming from and by putting yourself in their shoes, you will come to see why they behave the way they do. Terrie, Love is a great word! I confess we were not thrilled with our son’s marriage and move but accepted it and for the past two years, have shown our new daughter-in-law nothing but kindness and love. (Mine is Serve.). However she is open to giving it time and we pray that God will help heal her wounds and any hostility she feels towards us. However our son told us to prepare ourselves. My word for 2018 is “Embrace”. Marie, just prayed you’d be given the strength to keep showing kindness. About See All. We asked her for forgiveness if we have hurt her in any way. 🙂. Our daughter-in-law isn’t a warm and loving woman but claims to be a Christian (my son is also a Christian). Thank you for this! Realize that love is the answer. I like the idea of a “word” for the year! Your prayers are appreciated more than you know. I am careful to word things in a way that us the truth but I’ve learned people are at different levels of faith. Neither works by itself. WOW! I don’t know why she hates me, but the feeling is strong. But no doubt there are times I’ve deserved dislike, based on what I’ve done or from my own attitudes. To keep things short and simple, I took care of our only granddaughter for four years starting at two months of age after her birth mother tried to murder her. It’s time all denominations got on board. You’ve just reminded me that I should go inform that transparent pastor that he inspired my post this month. How can I love even if it hurts so horribly. We were shocked and hurt to say the least. Thank you so very much! This video is unavailable. Keeping to Yourself “Keeping to myself or being quiet. He is dead now, some thirty years later and the many children are grown and even now living the horrors of PTSD, and struggling as they raise their own families. I am a 17 yr old girl. Thank you for sharing, and may I wish you a very Happy New Year! First of all, my word is Love this year. He is faithful and one day He will deliver us from all of the evil of this world. But essentially, he launched an emotional warfare that ended in utter destruction- of us; of the kindness, compassion and respect we initially had; and of the person who he had fallen in love with. Two years ago, our son married a woman (we feel out of desperation) and they moved 500 miles away. Dawn, “Lord help me to love those who hate me, who hate my guts.”. This is something we know but that is easy for someone like me to forget. Cindy, I pray in Jesus name for healing within your family. “Love does not envy; it does not boast; it is not proud; it does not dishonor others. she was in a relationship at that point of time. Facebook is showing information to help you better understand the purpose of a Page. We must pray, work at being kind & loving toward those who hate us. Lv 5. ©2020 DaySpring Cards Inc. All Rights Reserved. But people love to talk about themselves. Dear Sister Who Now Hates Me I love my sister but she feels I've stolen her life. Thank you for your prayers, Dawn, as well as the reminder of this verse in Exodus. Im so broken hearted with all this and especially how she reacted with me with all the hate and blocked me from everywhere... it really striked me so deep in my heart how she acted with me. To work hard at loving others experienced the same sometimes difficult topic on a of. Was traumatizing to say the least I also love that you are in good company be very depressing and.. 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